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Love and Fear

There are two primary emotions: Love and Fear. All other emotions flow from the neurological recesses of these two. Anger is fear unsoothed and depression is fear experienced in isolation. Joy is love shared with others and excitement is a celebration of love realized.

Fear is a mother unsure of how to meet her newborn's needs. -- Love is the telephone call of a grandma reassuring her daughter of what a great mom she is.

Fear is a child ridiculed by siblings and classmates. -- Love is an adult or friend who looks beyond outward appearances and sees a child's heart.

Fear is darkness. -- Love is crawling in a parent's bed after a nightmare.

Fear reminds me of loss - death, job, health, status. -- Love reassures me of security - relationships and resources.

Fear is punishment. -- Love is teaching-learning.

Fear is a lonely child in their room - on the playground. -- Love is a parent snuggling a child, reading a book.

Fear is being misunderstood - unheard. -- Love is listening.

Fear goes one way. -- Love is reciprocal.

Fear is full of questions. -- Love is full of answers.

Fear blames and hides. -- Love encourages, challenges, and supports.

Fear increases uncertainty. -- Love stabilizes.

Fear points out inadequacies, disappointments, things you need to change. -- Love celebrates victories.

Fear shatters the truth. -- Love provides something to believe in.

Fear reminds and remembers mistakes. -- Love hopes.

Three things will last forever...faith, hope, and love. -- Jesus said, "Do not be afraid..."
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